Category: lifestyle

Life they say,isn’t a bed of roses. But we all have our part to play to help us have a fulfilled life. Less worries,less thinking will move us closer to that path of fulfilment. If the situation is uncontrollable, whatever is going to happen, will. If you can control it, then take a deep breath and face it.

Choices to living a fulfilled life.

~~~~ Do something every day that pushes you out of your comfort zone.

Order and routine give us a sense of security. It feels nice to have familiarity, but it’s also hard to grow into the person you’re meant to be without pushing your limits and trying new things.

At one point, everything is new to us. The more experiences you expose yourself to, the higher probability you’ll find one your passionate about.

~~~~ Live fully in each moment.

Yesterday is gone and tomorrow is not promised. The only certain thing we have in life is right now, this very moment.

By smelling, tasting, feeling, seeing, and hearing everything in our surroundings, we’re able to stay in the present resulting in insight, a crucial stepping stone on the path to happiness. Life is incredibly beautiful when you slow down enough to enjoy it. Live in the moment, live for right now. This very moment is life.

~~~~ Give gratitude any chance you can, and lots of it.

I really learned about gratitude when travelling through Bauchi. I was complaining there was no network but I then saw some people thankful for a meal and clean water. This got me thinking.

Take the time to remember how lucky you are. Even if it doesn’t feel this way, it could always be worse. Share love and gratitude every chance you can, and you’re left with an overwhelming feeling of a fulfilled life.

Despite its name, Boxing Day, which is celebrated on December 26 in Great Britain, has nothing to do with pugilistic competition. Nor is it a day for people to return unwanted Christmas presents. While the exact origins of the holiday are obscure, it is likely that Boxing Day began in England during the Middle Ages.

Some historians say the holiday developed because servants were required to work on Christmas Day, but took the following day off. As servants prepared to leave to visit their families, their employers would present them with gift boxes.

Church Alms Boxes

Another theory is that the boxes placed in churches where parishioners deposited coins for the poor were opened and the contents distributed on December 26, which is also the Feast of St. Stephen.

As time went by, Boxing Day gift giving expanded to include those who had rendered a service during the previous year. This tradition survives today as people give presents to tradesmen, mail carriers, doormen, porters, and others who have helped them.

Okay! So I was posted to Yobe……But camp was at Bauchi state.

So I left home for camp. Before getting to camp, I made up my mind to join the Orientation Broadcasting Service in the camp…(OBS).

Immediately I got to camp, I was in. I was a presenter and then I made the OBS studio my hostel…lol…(I mean I was always there).

Really, joining the OBS was fun. Lots of on air programs, and stuffs like that. We organized parties, we were totally in charge of almost everything.

Like we were little bosses…..

All through my days in the camp, I never felt lonely, bored or something related to those. I was very excited and happy because I met another family in camp(My OBS members).

Like we were 39 members or there about, but we lived like we came from same homes. They really made my year. I made a lot of friends, learnt new things, new languages, new everything…..

Really I was so excited I joined the OBS and I’m happy I never rejected going to Yobe camp.

IT WAS FUN ALL THROUGH!!!

So please if you get posted to Yobe, don’t hesitate to pack your loads…….because you won’t serve there anyways, we were later relocated to the states we wanted after camp….soooo…don’t stress it!!!

Here are some pictures I took with my OBS members…. Enjoy!!!

Every one of us will experience loneliness in our lifetime. It may hit us when we’re single and spending Saturday night on our couch watching reruns or when we’re smack at the center of a packed and pulsating party. There is one clear reason for this, and that is that loneliness is not just being alone, it is a perception of seeing ourselves as alone.

Obviously our circumstances will play a part in how we feel. Break ups, losses, separations and moves can make us feel pretty lonely. However, a great amount of what leads to chronic loneliness is the way we think and feel about ourselves and the world around us. Research now shows that people who struggle with loneliness may perceive the world differently. In one study  published by the American Psychological Association, researcher John Cacioppo found differences in the “lonely brain” both structurally and biochemically. Someone who struggles with loneliness may have more difficulty recognizing positive events, as the lonely brain shows suppressed neural responses to positive images and events. They also seem to have more trouble picturing the thoughts of others or “mentalizing.”

Another University of Chicago study showed that “Lonely individuals are more likely to construe their world as threatening, hold more negative expectations and interpret and respond to ambiguous social behavior in a more negative, off-putting fashion, thereby confirming their construal of the world as threatening and beyond their control.” If this is the case, then those who are lonely may be more likely to miss social queues. They may fail to recognize a welcoming look, a subtle invitation or an act of acceptance, thus perpetuating the cycle of loneliness.

It’s helpful to recognize that loneliness is very much a state of mind, and unfortunately, that mind is, in effect, lying to us. It is even putting our mental and physical health at risk. As the same study by John Cacioppo points out, social isolation is “a major risk factor for morbidity and mortality.” Yet, if the worst news is that loneliness can kill us, the best news is that we can save our lives.

Because loneliness has a lot to do with how we think about our circumstances and less to do with our actual circumstances, we have a lot of power in changing it. As another study revealed, “The way in which people construe their self in relation to others around them has powerful effects on their self-concept and, possibly, on their physiology.” So, if we change the filter through which we see ourselves, we can change our feelings of loneliness.

Gratitude is perhaps the most important key to finding success and happiness in the modern day. Knowing what we appreciate in life means knowing who we are, what matters to us and what makes each day worthwhile. Paying attention to what we feel grateful for puts us in a positive frame of mind. It connects us to the world around us and to ourselves. Research demonstrates that focusing on what we are grateful for is a universally rewarding way to feel happier and more fulfilled.

As an important mental health principle, the benefits of gratitude extend far beyond what we may imagine.

“You were given life; it is your duty (and also your entitlement as a human being) to find something beautiful within life, no matter how slight.”—Elizabeth Gilbert