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My most cringeworthy interview ever, where I wish I had fallen into black hole, happened a few years ago. And this for a job I really, really wanted.
It turned out that the person doing the interview was the same person who I had turned down in person numerous times for a date.

Talk about awkward!
Well, I didn’t get the job though.

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Dreams occur almost exclusively during very deep sleep or REM sleep. Scientists can still only guess why we dream. What’s clear however is we all spend about two hours a night dreaming even though we may remember only five per cent of our dreams.

A dream’s journey through the brain begins in the midbrain – specifically the pons – and ends in the cerebrum, the part of the brain where learning, organisation, memory and thought processes occur.

This route has caused scientists to speculate that dreams are important for the healthy functioning of these processes. It would also explain why REM sleep is essential for the development of the brain in children, and why babies need so much of this type of sleep.

There are several explanations for the intimate connection between dreams and memory, and especially the question of why we find it so difficult to remember our dreams. Some biologists say dreams are the brain’s way of sorting and deleting unimportant information so it doesn’t become overwhelmed and stop working.

Dr Hugo emphasises research into the reasons for REM sleep and dreams hasn’t yet delivered any hard scientific facts. ‘‘We do know REM sleep and dreams are essential for memory. Without REM sleep the electrical currents in the brain that make up our memory literally collapse. During dreams in REM sleep the memory currents are reactivated and more firmly fixed.’’

During dreams, Dr Hugo explains, memory networks contact other networks, starting a chain reaction. This could explain why, during the same dream, different themes occur that are apparently completely unrelated. Dream events also last as long as real-life ones and are experienced in colour.

Whether you remember your dreams depends on which sleep phase you’re in when you wake up, he adds. If you wake up during REM sleep you’ll remember your dream.

Compiled by Mari Hudson and Elise-Marie Tancred

I heard a story the other day about a woman who was advised by a sex therapist to exchange phones with her husband. The therapist believed the woman’s husband was cheating on her.
To remedy this, they were advised to rifle through each others emails and messages, in what, I suppose, was a kind of trust exercise. The idea was that having access to all her husband’s info, the woman could be reassured by her husband’s fidelity. Or confirm his infidelity.

Call me crazy, but checking your husband’s phone as part of a trust exercise is a bit like hitting a dead fly with sledgehammer to see if it’s really dead.

Trust is a funny thing, you see. If you don’t have it, it’s a cold, hard world where everything looks like a cheat. Too much of it, and you’re a naïve Pollyanna-child and no cheat could be big enough for you to see it.

Ultimately, trust is a little game you start playing with yourself first.

So I rolled my eyes at the therapist’s suggestion. Clearly no one in that room had heard of private browsing, multiple email accounts or the delete button. Or self-awareness.

But it did get me asking women what the deal was with their personal privacy in a relationship. Do they have any? Or do they hand over their right to personal space along with their smartphone, email and social media passwords when they decide to get serious with someone?

And, I have to admit, that I was surprised at how many couples do this. Actually, let me clear: I was surprised by how many women expect to do this as a matter of course.

Maybe there’s something wrong with me, but when I try to picture myself in that position – of being asked to share my email or FB messages to prove I’m trustworthy – something inside me goes into ‘WHOA!’ mode. I might have nothing to hide, but those boundaries go down hard.

Either you trust me or you don’t, but I shouldn’t have to use my personal spaces to placate your creeping suspicion on a daily basis.

Or do I have it wrong? I so often get the stink-eye for calling foul on couples who regularly scour the contents of each other’s daily behind-the-scenes interactions that I wonder if I’m being old-fashioned with all this ‘boundary’ business.

To be fair, I imagine that a lot of that creeping suspicion finds its way in through the cracks made by a lack of honest and regular communication. Maybe there’s a sense that what is hidden will never be willingly shared and it’s rather best to go and sniff it out for yourself.

You see, that’s the problem with blurring those boundary lines so early in the game.

If it’s starting with gaining equal access to all their private platforms, like trawling through their emails, FB messages and Whatsapp chats, where does it end? Diary entries and credit card slips? Getting wildly distressed every time they look at a naked picture? Following them to work and friend catch-ups?

The only way to manage healthy personal space is to deal with those trust issues the moment they start wanting to poke about. The minute you feel the need to be reassured that you can trust your partner, you need to start the conversations about your faith in your self, the relationship and him.

All a password gains you is access to a can of worms in your own head.

Source: women 24

1. It makes you that lady bomb tracker.

Tall women are targeted less often by criminals, they earn more money, and are usually more successful. Sounds like a sweet deal.

2. You always have a great view at concerts and in movie theaters.
No one will be in your way. Sure, YOU may be blocking people, but that’s another issue.

3. No one can steal your shoes, or else they’ll look like they’re thieves (which they are).
No one wants to look like a ridiculous toddler. Your shoes are safe!

4. Because of your height, you can get away with eating a lot more than other people.

5. You get the finest guys,tall guys are cute.You’re tall, he’s tall. You’re obviously soul mates. Awww!!!

6. You never need to ask for help getting things down from high shelves. you can get that shirt on the top shelf yourself.

7. Even if you weren’t good at sports, you were probably still put on the team.
Yeah, just stand there looking tall, scary, and occasionally block the ball back down their throat. Excellent!

8. If you were into sports, your height was a HUGE advantage.
Height can help you dominate almost any sport. Basketball, volleyball, softball, swimming, anything. And there’s one line you’ll never forget. “You can’t teach height.”

9. And even if you never played a sport in your life, people always assume you were amazing at a glamorous sport like volleyball,basketball…..etc.
Sure, it might not be true, but it is flattering!

10. You can rock the latest fashion trends.
Clothes often fit tall girls better, and maxi dresses were made for us. Own it!

11. You have lovely, long legs.
Who doesn’t love a pair of sexy, long legs?

12. You are NEVER obligated to wear heels.
Sure, you can if you want, but you can opt out too. Hello, comfortable walking!

13. So you suffer injuries like this way less often.

Your short friends, on the other hand, may have broken an ankle or two in their time.

14. But when you do wear heels, you feel like a model. And let’s be honest, tall is just plain sexy and unique.

And being tall is one of the coolest things ever. You have long beautiful legs walking around the whole place,oppressing others…. Amazingly superb right?